Resources
For the Dads
Although many of the resources listed in this guide can absolutely provide support and comfort to dads as well, there are also some really great dad-specific options available. It is not uncommon for men and women to grieve quite differently, and although everyone’s experience is individual, there are some common difficulties that are unique to the partner experience. These can lead men to feel misunderstood and isolated in their grief while also having less access to important supports and services.
The below resources are geared towards helping men reach out and tap into their grief, instead of avoiding it. Knowing there are other fathers out there trying to navigate the same challenges can be incredibly validating. Our culture permeates the idea that men need to be strong all the time, but strong does not need to mean avoidant, stoic or dismissive towards your feelings. Sometimes being strong is allowing yourself the kindness to grieve and feel.
Red Nose
In addition to the 24/7 help line, there is a dedicated men’s helpline available by appointment at peersupport@rednose.org.au, as well as a monthly online men’s support group... view here
Beards of Hope
Invites all men to grow a beard over winter, then brave the shave in September, raising funds for and awareness of, Bears of Hope... view here
Fathers of Loss Video Series
Featuring footballer Rory Sloane and musician Paul Field... view here
Men’s Line Australia
Online chat, video counselling, and free 24/7 professional telephone counselling are available on 1300 78 99 78... view here
Love From Dad
Love From Dad gives dads and non-birthing partners a space they have never truly had, but also one that maybe they didn’t know they needed...
Podcasts
Dad Still Standing
A podcast about #babyloss by two loss fathers
Memories of Us
Resources for the grieving man
High Performance
E202, Ashley Cain - Everything losing my daughter taught me
Thinking Out Loud
A podcast on grief and mental health
The Worst Girl Gang Ever
S4 Ep 2, Male factor infertility
S3 Ep 8, Fathers Day
S2 Ep 22, Rhys & Leila TFMR
S2 Ep 11 & 12, Stillbirth & grief the dads perspective
Still Parents
Talking all things #babyloss from a male perspective
The Glimmer Podcast
S2 Ep 1, A fathers perspective on life after stillbirth
Social Media
@jasondyk
@mrashleycain
@love.from.dad
@guys_and_grief
@dadstillstanding
@liams_legacy11
@stillparentspodcast
@sad.dads.club
@themiscarriagedad
@marklemonofficial
@iamdavidkessler
@knackered_knackers
@miscarriageformen
@mattstillstanding
@beardsofhope
@bereavedfather
@avivasdad
Memory Marking and Coping Stratgies
Tattoos in honour of your baby
Jewellery with engraved initials or made from ashes
Other personalised items such as cuff links, wallet, key tags
Raising money to donate to a charity in honour of your baby
Donating blood in honour of your baby
Exercising or joining a gym for your mental health
Making time to catch up with friends
Spending quality time with your partner
Books
Welcome To The Shit Club: A Males Perspective on Stillbirth, Grief, and Loss, By Jason Dykstra View Here
A Heart That Works By Rob Delaney
View Here
Three Minus One: Stories of Parents' Love and Loss, By Brooke Warner & Sean Hanish
View Here
Men & Miscarriage: A Dads Guide to Grief, Relationships, and Healing After Loss, By Aaron Gouveia View Here
Grieving Dads: To the brink and back By Kelly Farley & David Dicola View Here
A Guide for Fathers When a Baby Dies, By Tim Nelson View Here
From Father to Father (Letters from Loss Dad to Loss Dad), By Emily Long View Here
Asher My Son, a Year in the Life of a Childless Father, By Kavin Ley View Here